Learning from April's Kintsugi Story
I was part of a webinar that was held by an author’s coach. Many of you may know that I am writing my book, and April was sharing her experience with a program that the coach offered. Despite the webinar being about technology, April shared some things about her book that sparked my curiosity. You see, I can spot a Kintsugi lady from miles away… I knew with every fiber of my being that I was in the presence of greatness.
Greatness, you may ask? Yes! I define greatness as someone who lived through nightmares and is able to survive and then become thrivers. Great people use their experience to help others and are something special. They never cease to amaze me, especially when I hear the stories and they are so traumatizing.
Nothing prepared me for the story. As an empath, I confess it was not easy to write. Somehow, the way my brain works is that I visualize things as they are happening as if it’s a movie in my mind. They are not words; it is a scene. I could see April being physically hurt, being mentally manipulated. I could see her buckling all her babies into the van and pushing it out of her garage. I was tense as she described it, and I was in awe by her way of speaking, her serene and loving tone.
The Kintsugi ladies I interview is the best education I have accumulated in my life. Learning from different people's experiences and perspectives opened up a world to me that would never be possible. I feel honored that they are sharing their stories with me, and I feel a huge responsibility to retell it in an impactful way.
This is why these blogs with lessons are so precious to me.
I hope that the lessons I learned will also spark a desire in you to dig deep and figure out how her story made your life richer and more meaningful.
Lesson from April
Digging deep: April shared with me that at the age of 43 was when she learned that we are loved independently of our choices and our decisions. It hit me so strongly. This is a concept that many of us take for granted. When April assessed her childhood and her life, she was able to pinpoint exactly where the break happened that led her to a life where she believed that she had to prove herself to be loved. The break was so early on in her life. It seems like such a simple thing, but in reality, it caused a culmination of events that led her to not expect true joy from her life. She didn’t believe she deserved it, because she was not loved so fully. At age 43 and after nine deliveries, she learned from another person's retelling her story of a birth that she could see the infinite love we feel for our own just because. It was then she felt the true love God feels for her and all of us.
We deserve to thrive because we are deserving: April shared with me that she was very proud of being a survivor. She carried that as an honor. Then, her friend asked her the simple question, “Don’t you want to thrive?” She had to first let go of her resentment to then realize that yes, she did. She didn’t want to remain in the state of survivor, but she wanted and for the first time she knew that she deserved to thrive, because she deserved to be loved, just because… for no special reason other than she is.
- The most important part is communication: I asked April about raising so many kids with special needs. I felt that in itself would be enough to take down the strongest of women. April sees people with completely different eyes, especially now that she understands how God loves us all independently of who we are and our choices. She loved her kids fully, and she learned from raising them that the most important and difficult part is communication. When you figure that out, you can comprehend their needs and what the expectations can be for them. Ultimately, always remembering that they have the right to choose as we all do. We can’t control their choices and behaviors as ours, and we must love unconditionally as we are. But obviously, finding ways to better the communication is the trick to managing raising special needs children with love and harmony. April had to learn more about deafness, and she knew she would not want to be dependent on implants. She would learn how to use her hands to communicate with her children. Today, she even works at a school for the hearing impaired.
April remakes herself and rises up to the challenges that come her way. She makes a very good point. As long as there is hope, there is a way. I felt very connected to her, as the main reason for me to work on my blog is to give people hope. It is intensive work, but I make it a priority because we never know who will hear a story and believe that there is a way, that there is hope.
Thank you for reading and for being here. Please share these stories with your friends and family. You don’t know who may be saved just by feeling that there is hope after all.
April Tribe Giauque has a passion for showing stories, and how they connect humanity together. She is a writer for hire in ghostwriting, editing, and coaching. Speaking from the heart, her powerful story captivates her audience about surviving and forgiveness. She is an action taker that blesses the lives of victims of many types of abuse. Her published works, Pinpoints of Light: Escaping the Abyss of Abuse give real hope to anyone in domestic violence to know there is a way out, and with Out of Darkness, healing wholeheartedly is possible.
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