"In 2007, I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia and MS. I attributed these conditions to that anger I was harboring in my heart. I spent a year in bed. I couldn't move; I was so weak, and I was in so much pain. I was on a lot of medication, but I was not getting better. My body was attacking itself because I was allergic to the MS drugs."
A person who has so many downs could have a tendency to be careful, less adventurous, and ungrateful for the progress. Amy showed me how she feels completely strong and protected. She understands fully that downs may come, as most people have to go through various disappointments in life, but she is fully aware that her resilience arsenal is full of weapons that she knows how to use.
"I knew I loved my husband so much. I was torn between the pain I felt and being a burden to my husband. There was something still keeping me here. So, I asked for help. I went into psychiatric hospitals, twice in one year, where I was sedated with medications to the point that I could not feel any emotion. However, the medications kept me alive for as long as I needed to find other treatments."
"Every night this happened, it was always because I had done something bad, which accelerated the shame I felt. I was confused, especially because he said that my mother knew about it. I was hurt. It felt uncomfortable, wrong, and so painful."
"April sees people with completely different eyes, especially now that she understands how God loves us all independently of who we are and our choices. She loved her kids fully, and she learned from raising them that the most important and difficult part is communication."
You can rebuild after abuse. The damage from an abusive relationship takes a deep toll. When Savannah spoke about wanting to help girls and young women, she mentioned wanting to focus on confidence-building and how to choose relationships.
“Become a person who has more to offer.” Like most resilient thrivers, Gina uses her life experiences to better the lives of others. She told me that she knows she has become a person with more to offer, and ultimately this is the main goal we have in life.
"I became a single mom, really unsure about anything. I didn’t have a good family support system and the survival fire in me was bursting. I knew I would have to work hard, stop blaming others, stop waiting to be saved and really save myself. I wanted to be a role model for my son."
My brother died for no good reason. He touched the truck and got electrocuted. He was not there to save anyone. There was no heroic act, just a simple accident that took his life. It was time to accept it for what it was. I had found a newspaper clipping; I had it in my possession the entire time, but I didn’t read or internalize the facts. It was so much easier to tell an incredible story of heroism, in order to make the loss less devastating.
I always say that the difference between the survivor and the thriver is mainly that the thriver is a giver. They take what broke them to help others, and there is no question that Satine is a thriver. Satine found her Ikigai.